Krishna tells ti Arjuna , " You are very Dear to me ", and then he tells Arjuna that he must surrender . Surrender begins with an assumption . You must assume that you are the most beloved of the Divine and then Surrender happens.
The choice is your Destiny . Krishna does not tell Arjuna in the beginning that he must Surrender .
First he say ," You are so Dear to me ," And then he tells him, " There is no other choice for you , You must surrender . Either you do it now, or you do it later,"
This is path of Love
Sri Sri says in CELEBRATING SILENCE ......